How would you describe your thinking?

Last week I participated in a survey called Emergenics that identified a person's preference regarding their thinking and behavior. It was very interesting and I can say I was not surprised by the results. There are four areas that make up thinking: Conceptual, Analytical, Social, and Structural. I scored 46% Conceptual, 29% Analytical, 23% Social, and 2% Structural. As you can see I spend most of my thing time in conceptual mode, which means I don't do details or rules very well. No surprise there :).

Conceptual thinking:

• Imaginative
• Intuitive about ideas
• Visionary
• Enjoys the unusual
• Learns by experimenting

Analytical thinking:

• Clear thinker
• Logical problem solver
• Data driven
• Rational
• Learns by mental analysis

Social thinking:

• Relational
• Intuitive about people
• Socially aware
• Empathic
• Learns from others

Structural thinking:

• Practical thinker
• Likes guidelines
• Cautious about new ideas
• Predictable
• Learns by doing

The next part of the survey looked at how I behave. I scored a 94 for Expressiveness, 73 for Assertiveness, and 63 for flexibility. A lot of people think that because of my expressiveness and assertiveness that I am not flexible. This is not true. I voice my opinion very strongly; however, if someone appeals to my analytical thinking side, I will more than likely become collaborative and totally change my mind about something.

This was an enlightening experience for me and it has helped me to communicate better with Brooke, as she also took the survey. I have found this information very useful and if you're interested in finding out how you think, let me know and I'll hook you up with the person who helped me with mine.

Do you ever wonder about your purpose in life? I do. Sometimes I think I know exactly what it is and others I have no clue. It's as if it's on the tip of my tongue, but I can't quite get there. Some people are lucky in that they know their purpose when they are young. I had a friend in High School who knew exactly what she was going to do with her life, she was going to be a doctor. And today, she is a pediatric physician. How do people know at such an early age? and why do some of us struggle? I think it boils down to our connection to source. My friend was always a spiritual person, whereas, I know I have not always been in tune with spirit.

I would like to say that since I opened my heart and have created a more stable connection with spirit that I have found my way, but I don't think I have as of yet. I think part of it has to do with writing so that is one of the reasons I started this blog. I know there are people who feel the same way as I do and I wanted them to know they were not alone. Life's journey has its up and downs and its nice to know that there is someone out there who recognizes when we are struggling. At least that's the way I feel about it. So I appreciate all the support and positive, loving energy that is being sent in my direction.

Are you committed to your beliefs with honor?

I was reading a book the other day and a comment from one of the characters really resonated with me. "Our beliefs are without conviction--commitment without honor." It is so easy to get caught up in the hype today. We are inundated with what our beliefs should be every day from our loved ones, the people we work with, and even our government. We spend so much time trying to conform to what everyone wants us to do that we forget that we are the only ones responsible for our beliefs. I think this is where the "without conviction" comes in. We say we believe something to fit in, but we don't really take it to heart. We make a "commitment without honor".

I have been thinking about my beliefs lately and quite frankly, I need to give it more thought as I am not sure what all my beliefs are. It's amazing that I am going to be fifty years old this year and I am still not clear about all my beliefs. I have done what most of us have done. Floated along through life not really seeing and living, just existing. Don't get me wrong, it hasn't been a bad life so far. But I know I can do better. I want to create the rest of my life with conviction and commitment with honor.

Do you see what I see?

Yesterday, I was talking to a friend of mine who had asked me to check out the Mormon site setup for gay and lesbians. He wanted to know my opinion regarding the content of the site. The first thing that struck me was the underlying premise; it was okay to be gay and a member of the church as long as one doesn't act on their feelings as if it was choice to be made one way or the other. It is not a choice. Quite honestly, no one would choose to be an outsider. We are brought up with the notion that to belong is the way to be. Belong meaning everybody thinks and acts the same. But here's the truth, no one person is the same. We are all different and we deserve and are worthy of being treated as the people we are not as the people someone wants us to be.

I have struggled for many years with that very notion. I wanted to fit in, but I knew I was different. Today, I love that I am different that I am not like everyone else. I love being a woman. I love being a lesbian. I love being a divine spirit. I love having a connection to source (God, the Universe, a Higher-Being). There are so many people out there who struggle everyday with trying to fit it. Well, I say, forget about that. Be yourself and let your light shine through. You are a beautiful spirit shining brightly in this world. If you don't believe me just ask me. My job is to see you as you truly are just as I see myself as I truly am.

Your Heart's Desire

Sonia Choquette is a world renowned author and intuitive. She has written many books, but one of my favorites is Your Heart's Desire: Instructions for Creating the Life You Really Want. I was introduced to these principles by one of her students, Peter Hughes. It was not only life-changing, but also life-challenging. These principles have helped me to approach the things I want out of life from a position of soul or source. You might ask why I say soul or source, because as I mentioned in my introductory post, we are "divine spirits having a human experience". I did not know this when I began my Heart's Desire journey. I had my eyes closed to who I truly am. I believe most of us go through life with our eyes closed and I think we do this for many reasons, but I think the main reason is fear. Fear of knowing who we really are and who we really can be.

My story is your typical coming out story. I realized I was a lesbian when I was eighteen, but because of my upbringing and social rules. I was not comfortable with being who I am. I married twice in my twenties, I remain Facebook friends with both my ex-husbands today. I moved away from my hometown and was finally, able to live my life the way I wanted. However, I still struggled with the values that were instilled in me as a young person. In fact, when my family found out about my true self, they asked me if I wanted to go to "Hell". I answered "I was already living it". Today, my family does not support me even though I have found my soul-mate and life partner. It is difficult for them to see me as a divine spirit. They want to see me as a "lost person" who has strayed from the ideal of who they think I am. The truth is "I am a divine spirit having a human experience". I am giving you a brief synopsis of my life because I want you to know I understand. Your story may not be exactly like mine, but I understand the struggle of overcoming your fears and for seeing yourself for who you are.

Let's begin our journey together with a review of Sonia's nine principles. If you haven't read the book, then I would encourage you to do so. Or even better, find someone who can facilitate you through the process. I facilitate the process and usually offer a course in the fall. I am currently looking at offering a course later in the Spring or in the Summer. I will also work with you individually. The nine principles:

Principle 1: Bring dream to into focus - you create what you want when you focus.

Principle 2: Gain control of your unconscious mind - your unconscious mind is your intellect, keeping you safe or so it thinks. Your subconscious mind is a "Yes" machine, it will do whatever you tell it.

Principle 3: Imagine your heart's desire. If you can imagine it, you can create it.

Principle 4: Eliminate your obstacles - It your job to remove things that get in the way. A mantra to incorporate into your daily life: I now let go of worn-out things, worn-out conditions, and worn-out relationships. Divine order is now established and maintained in me and my world. Thank you!

Principle 5: Be open to intuitive guidance - Ask for guidance from help from whatever you determine as a higher power. Ask through prayer - Listen through meditation.

Principle 6: Choose to support your dream with love - No matter what you want to create, it will require choice and action. When you choose to make loving decisions that agree with what you desire, you attract your Heart’s Desire directly to you.

Principle 7: Surrender control - Stop worrying about how it's going to be done. Just ask and let the Universe provide for you.

Principle 8: Claim your dream - Use words to get what you want. It is your words chosen with love that will bring you to your heart's desire.

Principle 9: Stay true to your dream - This is the principle for checking your work with principles 1-8. If you find you are not getting what you want, check in with principles, and work through the process again.

Good luck and we'll be talking again soon.

Welcome to Serendipitous Living!

Hi all,

Welcome to my blog zone. This is a place of tranquility and serendipitous living. It is my life's journey that I love and want to share with you. I will be turning fifty this year and I as I think about the first half of my life, I can truly say I am content. I have had many ups and downs and all of them have been learning experiences. I can also say I have not always heeded the lessons to be learned, but I know the lessons will keep showing up until I do. In fact, I will keep showing up until I do.

Remember, you are "a divine spirit having as human experience" as my friend Peter Hughes has said. It is our recognition of this that sets us apart. Living our life from a soul perspective can be awe-inspiring, abundant, energizing, adventurous, amusing, bright, courageous, emotional, imaginative, and sincere experience of our lives. Don't misunderstand me, life can also throw us curves especially when the "human" part of our experience shows up. If we remember that the "human" part is a part of the whole, not the whole, we can live our life serendipitously.

Everyday New Fantastic Possibilities!

Kristi